There are a thousand opportunities in this world, but sometimes it feels like we’re restricted. Single life and dating for example sounds like a blast when you live in the big city and can meet new singles in different bars, classes, events, etc. in a big city like London. But how about South Lanarkshire (or Sooth Lanrikshire/Siorrachd Lannraig a Deas) where there are a ton of villages and smaller towns spread out over a larger area? It’s not like you’re gonna go on a train every night in a different direction to try to meet new singles.
That’s when we have to think outside the box. Whoever invented online dating sites did just that: now you can meet thousands of singles from all over the place in, well, one place.
Online you can strike up a conversation with anyone through chat rooms - you see who is online and start chatting. If they aren’t online you can opt for a message, telling their profile caught your eye and you’d love to speak with them soon.
Chance meetings are so yesterday in other words. Now all you need to do is to log online and start chatting.
Chatting etiquette is pretty much the same anywhere - South Lanarkshire isn’t all that different from New York. The important thing is to stick with the vibe on the dating site. If it’s a site for flirtatious fun, then that’s different for a site connecting potential soul mates who are into yoga.
A great first message on most sites simply state that you found their profile fun/interesting/amazing and you’d love to chat to them. From there you have a regular conversation, as you would in a bar asking questions, flirting, playing and sharing things about your life.
With flirting it’s good to build things up. Too full on too fast usually make people withdraw - they don’t understand why you are so attracted to them before you know them. Plus a buildup creates tension and that’s what you want.
Think of chat rooms as a party - you meet, mingle and then decide whether to exchange numbers or not. It’s not a place where you stay forever. Talk, or send each other PMs for a while, then take it offline if there’s chemistry. Meet for a drink or a coffee sooner rather than later to find out if you have real life chemistry.