Going to a bar to meet singles, or meeting singles through friends has a lot to do with randomness. It all depends on where someone might go that night and who knows who. If people sign up to online dating sites on the other hand, it means you can find them at any time in the same place. Suddenly you have a lot more control over whom you meet.
When you can meet a lot of singles in Walsall and surrounding areas in one place, it makes the single life a lot more fun. You are in charge, not serendipity.
Chatting to singles online can also be easier than in a bar. For one there is no loud music playing. Nor are there friends around who might be more drunk than what’s pleasant. It’s just easier to start and continue a conversation in a chat room.
It’s similar to a conversation you’d have in a bar though - you’re charming, tactful, polite, humorous and curious to find out about the other person. You chat for a while to find out if there is chemistry, then you either swap numbers, or decide to meet for a quick coffee or drink to see if you have real life chemistry.
Approaching someone online is easy. If they are online at the same time as you are, you will see that they are available to chat. Then you can easily send them a message saying their profile caught your eye and you’d love to chat. From there ask them questions about things you learnt about them in their profile, flirt, play and have fun.
If someone’s profile catches your eye, but they are offline, you can just as easily send them a private message where you tell them why their profile stood out to you and ask them a question or two to get the conversation started.
It’s important that you meet up with someone sooner rather than later so you don’t build an image of them that isn’t true when chatting with them. As people we tend to fill in the gaps when we get to know someone and we fill them with what we want. Someone’s online persona, or how they express themselves in writing, is just one part of them. Getting to know someone means learning about all the different aspects of their personality. So meet for a no pressure coffee where you keep an open mind - their real life self might be different from what you thought, but better once you get to know them properly.