Love is an intense emotion, and in most cases, it does start off with feelings of lust towards a partner you've become close to. So considering when natural feelings of lust have developed into something more meaningful is one of the most fundamental dating questions of all. But the good news where single women and single men are concerned, or indeed lesbian or bisexual couples, is there is no real mystery, and the answer is actually pretty straightforward.
Lust is a basic instinct, driven by hormones. Whether or not it's possible to fall in love with someone at first sight is open to debate, but you can very easily lust after a complete stranger. For straight males, the attraction is often superficial, with everything from a short skirt to a generous cleavage casting a hypnotic spell. It's what happens afterward which counts. After attraction has led to intimacy, does lust fade?
In any social function, particularly bars or nightclubs, any number of single people will fall ‘in lust.' They may well be swept off their feet by a combination of good lucks and charm – and the ability of alcohol to break down natural inhibitions. They may lose themselves to the throes of passion for a few hours. But here's the key, whether you met socially or on a dating site, lust may bring you together. Love is more profound.
For many singletons swept up by short-term excitement, the thought of spending time with that person isn't on their agenda. Lust, no matter how momentarily all-consuming, can equate to little more than a ‘bit of fun.' So the dating question which will best resolve whether are falling in love or merely ‘in lust' is this. How important is this partner to you? Do you want to be with them all the time?