So maybe comparing an online dating site with a party is a bit far-fetched - you aren’t wearing cocktail dresses and suit jackets when chatting online - but it’s not as far as you may think. At a party you mingle, meet new people and, if you’re single, look for other singles whom you’ll hopefully have some chemistry with. After all, that’s what we do when we’re single - we’re either looking for some flirtatious fun with Mr or Mrs Right Now, or something more serious with Mr or Mrs Right.
Online there might not be a party atmosphere and cocktail dresses (no champagne either), but there are a lot more singles than you’d meet at your regular party. Logging in to a dating site, your chances of meeting singles in your area are a lot greater than at a party. Usually a dating site has thousands of singles in your area alone, as well as in neighbouring areas.
Chatting at a bar or online isn’t all that different - you see someone you like and start a conversation. It’s probably a lot easier online though as you know the other person is single and looking to flirt.
Online chat rooms are simply a great place to get the conversation going - then you can take it offline later.
The party might get started when chatting to someone online, but it doesn’t stop there. You have to meet them in the real world to find out if there’s true chemistry. This is when things get really exciting!
Truth be told you won’t like some people you have online chemistry with, whereas others will turn out to be much better than you imagined. No one is exactly as we think they’ll be when we meet them offline. That isn’t necessarily a bad thing - it just means we need to meet them at least twice, so that we have time to adjust to their real life selves. Attraction, believe it or not, isn’t always instant.
When you meet someone online you might be messaging each other for a few days or weeks before meeting up, or you might be online at the same time and chat for an hour and then decide to meet up. The sooner you meet someone, the sooner you find out, but you might want to gauge what they are like by chatting to them for a while first. Phone conversations work too.
So what are you waiting for? Get online, meet lots of people, do lots of chatting and start going on lots of dates!