The Frenchman is an elusive creature desired by women across the globe for his charming good looks and sexual prowess. However, he is prone to behaviors that confound and confuses the opposite sex, especially those who aren’t versed in the ways of the Frenchmen. Snagging one of these rare sexy beings as your own requires knowing what you are getting yourself into, and that is where we come in.
The first step is to adjust your definition of “date”, especially if you are an American used to the luxurious process of testing the waters during many rendezvous over dinner and drinks to get to know a man and decide if he is worth committing to. Frenchmen shoot from the hip and are led by whims and desires. Which explains a whole heck of a lot about their behavior.
Don’t expect him to plan dates in advance. If you are the kind of girl that likes to be romanced by elaborate plans, then a Frenchman may not be the guy for you. Expect your Frenchman to text when he is 5 minutes away from your flat and hoping to scoop you up for a night of wining, dining and grooving in the moonlight.
Play hard-to-get. Frenchmen enjoy the game. Be coy, and make sure you turn down his proposed spur-of-the-moment plans occasionally, know that in France, when a sexual advance is met with a “no,” that no is understood to be more of a challenge than an actual no. So don’t be surprised (or offended) if your Cassanova persists in badgering you. Save that sexual harassment lawsuit for the fifth or sixth come-on.
Clubs aren’t the place to meet a decent Frenchman. The culture here just isn’t built around picking up women in bars. Instead, work with the social acquaintances you already know to build a social circle and meet other singles that way. Internet dating is also an option now as it’s popularity is on the rise in France.
Make a day (and night) of it. When it comes to spending time together, Frenchman likes to weave together an elaborate. So expect a movie, then dinner and drinks, then a night of wild dancing topped off with a nightcap and a sleepover at his place. They like to run marathons, those Frenchmen.
Know that if you kiss him, he is going to think you are giving him the green light for no-holds-barred hanky-panky. Adopting a French lover may not be the worst idea you’ve had. But If you prefer to commit before taking the proverbial plunge into his pants, he may not understand (or have the patience for) the waiting game.
Lastly, while there may be nothing sexier than hearing him mutter the words Je t’aime (French for I love you) in your ear during a steamy moment, take heed: the proper translation for Je t’aime when spoken by a French guy really means I like you a whole lot in this incredible moment we are sharing. French guys live in the moment and speak from that place. He is not suggesting Let’s get hitched and make babies.
But if he does like you a whole lot, it sets the scene for enjoying your Frenchman fling for as long as your heart, or his whim, desires.