Being single sounds like a great idea in theory – the perfect chance to have time for yourself, creating a life you love, and meet lots of fun singles, go on incredible dates and so forth. In reality, you might find yourself lonely, unmotivated and utterly frustrated. So how to get around that?
The first answer is to really dive into your life. Decide who you want to be and what you want to achieve (from the heart, not the ego – i.e. what will truly make you happy, not what will make you look successful) and then go for it. Look after your mind and body. Someones who respects themselves feel ten times better being who they are and, as a result, attract ten times more dates.
Sure it can be hard to motivate yourself, especially if you feel down and out at the moment, but the day you start fighting is the day you’ll start feeling the motivation creep back.
The second answer is to start getting social in ways you enjoy. You don’t have to be a social butterfly to create a great social life. Start attending meetup groups in your city that cater to the hobbies you have. That way you use your hobbies to meet women and men in your area that are single! Maybe there are traditional hobbies for women and other traditional hobbies for men, but these days it’s much more mixed. Whether you join a surfing meetup group or one for computer programmers, there’s bound to be women. Maybe you’ll find a bit more women in the one for baking than the one for tech entrepreneurs, but really, choose something you love, or you’ll just end up feeling awkward. Be sure to join a couple of different groups though, so you’re exposed to more people.
Other places to meet single women and men include the gym, cooking classes, book circles, study groups, painting classes, dance classes, membership clubs and so forth. Find out what classes there are in your town and which ones you’d like to take part in. And if you’re into exercising and the gym, have a look at the different ones in your town. Different places tend to pull different crowds, so join the one that most resonate with you.
Also, keep in mind that sometimes you meet people in unexpected places. Simply drinking a coffee in the local coffeeshop might lead to a meeting. Attending local events, concerts, the farmer’s market, etc. is also good because it exposes you to people. And the more people you know, the broader your network, the more single people you’ll meet. Try and find a buddy to attend some events with. Meetup groups are easy to attend alone, but parties are less so.
Lastly, join a dating site. There’s no easier way of meeting single women as you can check out profiles and contact someone at any hour – it doesn’t have to fit into a busy schedule. It also removes the pressure of your social life – rather than feeling you have to meet singles when you’re out and getting disappointed if you don’t, if you are also a member of a dating site, you know you don’t have to fret as there are thousands of singles to meet online as well.