How to Stop a Male Friend from Flirting Or Hitting On You

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Have you ever been in a situation where a guy is still trying to get your phone numbers, even after you told them you aren’t interested? There are many times when men cannot accept that they’ve been rejected and they continue trying to flirt with you. It can be so much more difficult when that guy happens to be your friend.

One of the very first things you have to do with a guy (friend or not) who is flirting with you and you aren’t interested is to stop flirting back (if you are flirting that is). The longer you entertain the unwanted flirts, the harder it will be to get him to stop.

So, how exactly do you get your friend to stop flirting with you but still maintain a friendship? Here are 7 ways that will get your friend to stop flirting with you.

1. Tell him you don’t like his flirtatious comments.

Some friends can have a flirtatious bond where both know it is nothing more than flirting. However, there are some people who find flirting with their friends uncomfortable and they don’t like it. If your friend flirts with you by either commenting how attractive you are or fawns over you, stop him mid- compliment and tell him that you don’t appreciate the way he talks to you.

2. Tell him you are taken.

Chances are if he is your friend, he may already know that you have a boyfriend. Even still, it doesn’t help but to remind him that you are not single and would appreciate if he respected that. If you are single, you could always point out that you have a crush on someone who isn’t him. He’ll get the point, even if may make him a little angry.

3. Remind him that he is your friend.

If you find his flirts uncomfortable, tell him that you are uncomfortable and you don’t think friends should talk that way toward one another. Tell him that you value his friendship and wouldn’t want to jeopardize it by entertaining his flirts and possibly leading him to believe there could be a future between you two when there really isn’t.

4. Avoid late night texting.

We understand that there may be a point in time where late night texting is unavoidable but when your male friend texts you late at night and tries to become flirtatious, simply ignore him. He will get the hint sooner or later.

5. Stroke his jealous side.

When he sees that you are getting closer to another guy or you are ignoring him in the presence of someone else, this will probably make him jealous. Be on guard though, because he may confront you and ask why you’ve been ignoring him. This is the perfect opportunity to tell him that friends don’t flirt with one another and he should start remembering that you are friends and nothing more.

6. Ignore him.

There is only so much that you can do to make a guy understand that you don’t have any romantic inclinations toward him. If you’ve tried other tactics, perhaps it is time to start ignoring him—that is if he is just some guy who is more acquaintances with rather than a long-term friend. If he is a longtime friend, then you will have to resort to #7…

7. Reject him.

No one really wants to turn someone down and hurt their feelings, but you can only be so nice about it for so long. You’ve tried other ways of subtly letting him know that you aren’t interested, but he didn’t get the hint. Now you have to rip the Band-Aid off and tell him that you aren’t interested.

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